Amigos

It's really hard to work up a blog entry immediately after a vacation. It seems like it should be easy, I mean I've been on vacation and there should be lots to tell. There is, but my brain is still in holiday mode and doesn't want to put two thoughts together. Last week I watched the sunrise over Mexico and I'm not quite ready to let that go-

We spent our mornings here poolside, in a lovely resort in Cancun-

The view was not too shabby-

We ate dinner overlooking the turquoise blue waters of the Gulf of Mexico-

We fought some serious surf and played water volleyball in the resort pool-

Okay, some of us played water volleyball and some of us watched from the comfort of our lounge chairs but still, water volleyball was played. Some of us also participated in water aerobics but you will not be seeing those pictures here. I'm sorry or you're welcome....you can decide.

Did I mention we were not alone? These friends-

well, we go waaaaay back... more than thirty years in fact. All the way back to the college years. These boys were fraternity brothers in 1978 and they are brothers still.

One of us may even have celebrated a milestone birthday during the week-

Who better to celebrate with than old friends? Its a very special thing to have friends who knew you when. There's no pretense, no falseness to the relationship...we've all grown up into adulthood together.

Up, not old...we are not old.

Twelve years ago we spent a week together in the Florida Keys. Twelve years doesn't seem that long ago but when I look at this picture I realize that time has most assuredly marched on.

We look like kids ourselves in this photo but here we are, twelve years later with young adult children of our own and many moves between us from sea to shining sea. We've all led busy lives but in our hearts, nothing has changed. There will always be a place reserved there for these friends.

A number of honeymooners also spent the week at our resort and we made them laugh a lot. One commented that she hoped when they were 'our age' they had friends like this. I hope so too.

Life is so much sweeter when shared with friends.

Mucho fun in the Wednesday Hodgepodge-Vol 47

Welcome to the Wednesday Hodgepodge Hodgepodgers. Add your link at the bottom of my post and then go visit your friends and neighbors. Here are my answers-

1. What's your favorite meal to serve on a chilly autumn evening?

One of my favorites is homemade vegetable beef soup. I use Paula Deen's recipe but I omit the seasoning salt and I rarely have black eyed peas in the house. I throw in zucchini or regular peas or whatever other veg I have on hand in place of the black eyed peas. This is a hearty, flavorful soup...I always make mine with short ribs and the meat is so delicious and tender. When hubs hears this is on the dinner menu it makes his day.

2. Are you a creature of habit? Explain.

In a sense yes, and here's what I think that means. The way in which I'll react or behave when I feel angry-hurt-frustrated-happy-excited-anxious, is somewhat predictable...BUT... there's always a but, right?...I'm not inflexible. Does that make sense? While I may always go for door number one I can be taken out of my comfort zone and pull open door number two if necessary. And I can be happy while doing so.

Now, if by habit you mean, do I get up at the same time every day, eat the same breakfast, have meatloaf Monday and taco Tuesday, etc. then no.

Did I over think this question? Yes.

Is that a habit of mine? Maybe.

3. What food product (no longer available) do you remember and miss from days gone by?

The first thing that popped into my head was something called Whip n' Chill. It was a gelatin like dessert and we always had the lemon flavored although it may have come in other flavors too. It was like whipped jello I guess, very light and creamy and I'm sure it was chock full of all sorts of artificial chemically goodness. Along those same lines I also remember a product called Jello 1-2-3.

It was a layered jello dessert with each of the three layers just a little bit fluffier and lighter than the one before. Pretty sure it was more fun to make than it was to eat. I can't say I actually miss either of these products because eww, but they do make me think of my childhood.

4. What's something you've lost that you've never been able to find? Any theories as to what happened?

My favorite sunglasses, two pair actually, and neither were the cheap drug store variety. Sigh. One pair I'd only had for about a week when I left them on the seat of a booth in a restaurant. We'd only walked a short way down the street when I realized it but when I went back they were no where to be seen. Hubs bought me a second pair and I had them for a while but they disappeared just before we moved back to the states. Where they went is a complete mystery. I checked every nook and cranny in our cars before we sold them prior to leaving England and I emptied every coat pocket, purse, and tote bag in the house. Nada. So sad too because I loved them and also because hubs likes to bring this up every time I think about buying another pair of expensive sunglasses.

5. Zoo~circus~carnival...your favorite?

I'll say the zoo mostly because I haven't been to a circus in ages and I'm not a fan of carnival rides. Now, carnival food is another story.

6. What song makes you feel instantly happy?

Oh so many...how do I pick just one? It's really hard to resist putting my top ten happy songs here but I will. I know I should say something inspirational but I'm going with this one...beach music always makes me happy.

7. To what extent are you an argumentative person?

Well, I guess that would depend on who you ask. Does that answer sound argumentative? Mostly I'm an easy going laid back person who has opinions about certain things. Holding and expressing an opinion that differs from someone else's is not necessarily being argumentative. I think the argumentative part comes into play in the way you express those opinions and feelings. Occasionally I like to have the last word. Hubs might say more than occasionally. I'm working on it.

8. Insert your own random thought here.

Are you on facebook? What do you think of all the new changes? If you're confused I invite you to visit my friend Carolyn's blog (The Wonder of Tech). It's a great place to find easy to understand answers to all your tech questions...if you ask she'll answer. Hi Carolyn! Here's a link to her post outlining some of the recent facebook changes which I found really helpful.

I saw this posted on her fb page last week and I 'borrowed' it...a sign of the times, for sure!

Hodgepodge Questions-Vol 47

Happy Tuesday! I have mucho fun planned for this week so I will likely be a little scarce in the blogosphere. Not so scarce that I don't post the Wednesday Hodgepodge questions and of course my answers, but I may not get around to reading all of yours until sometime this weekend. Speaking of this week's questions...here they are-

1. What's your favorite meal to serve on a chilly autumn evening?

2. Are you a creature of habit? Explain.

3. What food product (no longer readily available) do you remember and miss from days gone by?

4. What's something you've lost that you've never been able to find? Any theories as to what happened?

5. Zoo~circus~ carnival...your favorite?

6. What song makes you feel instantly happy?

7. To what extent are you an argumentative person?

8. Insert your own random thought here.

Come back tomorrow and join the linky party...see you there!

I love it when a plan comes together

A few weeks ago daughter2 celebrated her 21st birthday. You remember this cutie, right?

I had seen what looked like a simple and fun idea online (Pinterest, where else?) and I decided to try to recreate it for her special day. It was definitely fun but the verdict on simple may still be out.

In as few words as I can manage, ahem, here's how it worked-I downloaded this poster template which in essence is actually 25 postcard templates. When these 25 postcards are put together they morph into a poster which reads-'I'm so glad you were born'. Without telling my daughter, I emailed 25 friends and family members, explained what was required, and asked them to email me back if they were in. Tracking down the friends was a little tricky as I had to semi stalk them on facebook. The boyfriend mentioned to her later that his heart started pounding when he saw my name in his inbox. Apparently he was wondering what he'd done to warrant an email from me. Hmmm....I might need to think about that reasoning a little bit more closely when life settles down here.

In a project like this it pays to have a rather large extended family...13/25 postcards were assigned to grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. Daughter2 has a bazillion friends so narrowing it down to just 12 wasn't easy. I went with a few besties from the high school years who are scattered far and wide, including one across the sea, and then a few friends from the college years, and one special friend who goes all the way back to her toddler days. Mostly I went with friends I felt would remember to mail the cards.

Once I had my 25 names confirmed I assigned a postcard to each one and sent them an email along with instructions and their template. They had to open the attached template, print it out on card stock, write a birthday message along with her address on back, and then put an actual honest to goodness stamp on it. And then mail it of course. I knew that last part would be hard for some of the friends because this generation resists sending snail mail. That requires going to the post office. Bother.

I asked everyone to get their cards in the mail between Aug. 30 and Sept 4 so Daughter 2 would have all of them by her actual birth date. Originally I wasn't going to tell her anything but after I thought about it I decided she might read a postcard and chuck it and I didn't want her to lose any of the pieces. A couple days before the first was due to arrive I told her she'd be getting mail all week long and not to throw it away. She got three cards the first day and knew right away it was some sort of puzzle.

I attempted to photograph the end product while I was in town recently but she was missing one card. She had to track that one down so I was glad I'd kept my list of names and which numbered card they'd been assigned. Naturally its the one in the middle but still really cute-

This was a fun surprise and she absolutely loved it. She loved the birthday wishes and all the love sent her way, she loved the idea of working out the message, and most especially she loved going to her mailbox every day and seeing it jammed with postcards. While they might be resistant to mailing letters college students are big huge fans of receiving letters.

I've tried to white out all the names and addresses but I think you still get the idea.

And my mom wrote her message on the patterned side of the card which we all just love because that is so my mom. It made Daughter2 smile.

The finished product is a collection of happy thoughts and sweet wishes in ink and paper and color on one side with a heartfelt message on the other. I had fun planning this and Daughter2 has a special keepsake to mark a milestone birthday.

The Wednesday Hodgepodge is Nuts-Vol 46

Welcome to the Wednesday Hodgepodge...so glad you've joined the fun today. Add your link at the bottom of my post and then hop around to see what everyone else is saying. Here are my answers-

1. It is officially fall here in North America...I realize not everyone who participates in the Hodgepodge lives in North America, but if you do what's your favorite memory of Summer 2011? If you're not in North America, what's your favorite memory of the season just ending on your side of the world?

One of my favorite memories from Summer 2011 would have to be my camp reunion which I wrote about here and here....such a special weekend!

2. Your favorite nut? You know I mean the edible kind, right?

Oh dear...how do I choose? I've never met a nut I didn't like. Almonds are all the rage now and we're told they're good for us so I'm on board with that. I'm slightly addicted to the Blue Diamond Wasabi Soy variety. I have always loved cashews. And pistachios. And of course nearly everything is better with some chopped pecans or walnuts thrown in to the mix....brownies, sweet potato casseroles, salads, granola, etc. I like salted peanuts and I love peanut butter. Who am I forgetting??? Brazil nuts are just eh I guess but otherwise bring on the nuts!

3. What activity puts your sense of balance to the test?

Hubs might say walking. Seriously sometimes the floor jumps right up at me. I would probably say anything involving heights.

4. How would you describe your sense of humor?

Alive and well. I think we've become so serious as a nation and not in a good way. I realize there is much doom and gloom every which way you look but a sense of humor comes in handy when times are tough.

Has anyone been watching any of the political debates (speaking of no sense of humor)? When asked the question, "If elected what is one thing you'd bring to the White House?" one of the candidates (Herman Cain) responded, "I would bring a sense of humor because America is too uptight." On this point I agree with Mr. Cain.

5. September 28th is National Ask a Stupid Question Day...what's your stupid question?

This is one of those questions that causes me to draw a blank. Not that I haven't asked plenty of stupid questions in my lifetime, it's just that none are coming to mind. I could ask my husband if he can think of a stupid question I've asked recently but I'm pretty sure that would be a stupid question.

6. Roller skates~hula hoop~jump rope...which activity would you most enjoy? Yes, you have to choose.

Roller skates. My girls can hula hoop til the cows come home but I've never gotten the hang of that activity. If you're over 40 you probably know why I 'just say no' to the jump rope. If you're under 40 and have ever given birth just wait...your day will come.

I've always loved to skate and I still had a pair of roller blades up until we moved to England. We had great bike trails near our house in Maryland that were perfect for roller blading and we used to go pretty often. My current neighborhood is super steep so no roller blading for me these days. My girls are probably sighing with relief right now.

7. What's your most sentimental possession?

Do you read here? Ever? Then you know I'm sentimental and can't possibly pick just one thing.

A couple of letters hubs has written me over the years. My girl's baby books. My wedding album. A letter my dad wrote me while he was in Vietnam. Many of my Christmas ornaments. Dishes. Yes, I can be sentimental about pottery. It's not so much the dish but more the memory of the trip to get it that sparks the sentiment. I'm sure there's more but I'll stop now. You're welcome.

8. Insert your own random thought here.

This picture was taken on the beach in Marco Island Florida in the summer of 1995-

That adorable little munchkin sitting smack in the middle of her two cousins is my sweet, funny, courageous niece who is turning 17 years old today. I wrote about her in this post if you're new here.

Happy Birthday Niece!

She will spend her birthday in the hospital recovering from her second round of chemo as she waits for a bone marrow donor match to be identified. Becoming a donor may not be something you've ever thought about but I am asking you to consider it today. I know it all sounds a little bit scary so here are a few facts taken from their info packet about the process-

• You must be between the ages of 18 and 60, be willing to donate to any patient in need, and meet the health guidelines.

• Donors never pay for donating and are never paid to donate. Medical and travel costs are reimbursed.

• Every person who registers provides hope...you may never be identified as a match for someone or you might be one of several potential matches. You may also be the only one on a registry of 8 million people who can save a patient's life

To register or learn more please visit Be the Match. After you register you'll be sent an easy to follow packet of instructions. A simple cheek swab is all that is needed to put you into the system. Further testing would happen should you be lucky enough to match someone on the wait list.

If you do decide to register I'd love for you to let me know. And even if you don't I'd really love for you to leave a happy birthday wish in the comments section of my blog today for my favorite seventeen year old. I'm pretty sure my blog is the first place she goes when she gets online, ahem, but just in case its not I'll make certain she knows to visit on her birthday.

Hodgepodge Questions-Vol 46

Here are the questions for the weekly Wednesday Hodgepodge...don't forget to come back tomorrow and link answers for all the world to see.

1. It is officially fall here in North America...I realize not everyone who participates in the Hodgepodge lives in North America but if you do, what's your favorite memory of Summer 2011? If you're not in North America, what's your favorite memory of the season just ending on your side of the world?

2. Your favorite nut? You know I mean the edible kind, right?

3. What activity puts your sense of balance to the test?

4. How would you describe your sense of humor?

5. September 28th is National Ask a Stupid Question Day...what's your stupid question?

6. Roller skates~hula hoop~jump rope...which activity would you most enjoy? Yes, you have to choose.

7. What's your most sentimental possession?

8. Insert your own random thought here.

Shrimp and Grits and a Glass of Sweet Tea

We were not at home this weekend. Are you surprised? I know we've always traveled a lot but I cannot remember a chunk of time where we've been on the go the way we've been this summer and now fall. We hop from weekend to weekend it seems and while its all fun and games (mostly) it is a wee bit exhausting too. Airports are not the place to hang out if you want rest and relaxation. They help you get to places where you may find rest and relaxation but the whole airport hullabaloo is about as far from R and R as one can get.

Anyhoo, it was a good weekend to exit NJ. The rain people. What is up with the rain??? It was pouring buckets Friday afternoon as we made our way to the airport. By some miracle our flight was only slightly delayed (do flights ever leave on time anymore?) and we arrived in warm and sunny South Carolina around dinner time. Always happy to see my beautiful daughter2's face greet us as we step out into the sunlight there.

We were in town for Parent's Weekend at her university. We have been trekking to Parent Weekend events since Daughter1 started at this same uni back in 2006. Two 'kids' and six years later means this was our last...Daughter2 graduates in the spring. Sigh. Well, only a small sigh. Whenever we feel a little bit sad about that fact we need only remember that while Parent Weekends may be ending for us tuition paying is also ending for us. (Insert happy dance here!!) Oh, and fyi-if your kids are infants and your financial planner is blabbing on and on and on about putting money aside for uni in the far off distant future you best do what he says. You'll thank him for that advice one day.

Hubs cannot go to collegetown without having a meal at his favorite spot...his favorite meal I mean-shrimp and grits. This particular restaurant makes the absolute best. They are serious about their shrimp and grits. I have the restaurant's cookbook but have never attempted to recreate their version at home. Maybe this is the year to learn although I'm not sure shrimp and grits eaten in NJ is going to taste the same as having that dish served below the Mason Dixon. We'll find out.

Saturday was full of sunshine and we had a full day. We normally attend Daughter2's sorority tailgate before the game but this year Daughter2 is a rush counselor and there are lots of complicated rush rules she must follow which include not identifying to Freshman girls which sorority is hers. They are supposed to be neutral advisors to the rushees and her 'girls' won't find out which sorority is hers until after they've signed their bid sheets. I know some of you know what I'm talking about and some don't. Hubs finds it all very confusing...fraternity rush is nothing like sorority rush.

Anyway, because of this we ended up at a fraternity tailgate. Daughter2 is this particular fraternity's sweetheart and we enjoyed meeting some of the parents there. Being named sweetheart is an honor and you are chosen as sweetheart mostly because you have been a good friend and also maybe a little bit because you are an excellent baker and bring banana cupcakes with peanut butter icing and butterfinger crumbles around on a regular basis.

The sorority tailgates have tablecloths and dinnerware and balloons and lovely handpainted signs in the sorority's colors. The boys drag sofas from their house out to their tailgates. Somehow the sofas work.

While on campus we also visited the newly remodeled bookstore which is technically a Barnes and Noble. So nice! If you haven't been on a college campus recently you'd be amazed at how modern and convenient and wonderful our tuition dollars they have made life for the students.

We went to the game of course...always great fun when your team wins and the stadium sits in a beautiful spot. Daughter2 hates heights but she is putting on her game face here for a photo op with mom.

Speaking of sorority stuff...before we went to dinner on Saturday night we were able to meet up with one of my college sorority sisters and her husband. They live in town but we're always so busy when we're here we don't usually get to see one another.

We had bbq with my sister and brother in law and niece on Sunday afternoon before heading back to the airport for our (delayed) flight. We love collegetown and will miss visiting once Daughter2 completes her studies.

No more tuition. No more tuition. No more tuition.

Hey, that kinda works.