Thursday, May 30, 2019

Seoul Much To Say

Way back when (April to be exact) I was blogging along with the A-Z Challenge and I've decided to go back now and wrap it up with the final eight letters of the alphabet. You'll find the first post in the series here, but in a nutshell my theme was things that delight. 

Delight is my word for the year and it seems whenever I have a word for the year it is apropos to that particular year's life circumstances. Or maybe it's the opposite in that it's not obvious in life's circumstances, but declaring it my word inspires me to seek it out. 

S is for South Korea

This little punkin and his parents and his soon-to-be born sibling will be setting up their new home on the other side of the world later this summer, and I thought it worth a mention here.  

Nana isn't going with him, but she will definitely come and visit. 

When I tell people my daughter is moving to South Korea I generally get one of two reactions.  A look of horror and disbelief flashes across their face as they whisper 'South Korea??' 

Or they say Oh Wow! What an amazing opportunity for them! What an adventure they will have! 

I'm in the latter camp in case you're wondering. Which is not to say there aren't some hard things to get my head around like the upside down time zone and the fourteen-ish hour flight and the puppy dog coming to live with us for the duration. But mostly I think Wow! What an amazing opportunity  for them! What an adventure they will have!

When I schlepped baby boy's mama across the pond to live at the tender age of fifteen she initially dug in her heels and cried herself to sleep at night. Our move happened so fast and she had been mostly happy in her big American high school. 

Very quickly though she found herself feeling at home in a country not her own. Really at home because one of the first things you learn when you move house or state or country is home is where your people are and there we were. 

She made friends with classmates who were different in many ways but were the same in all the ways that count. 

She became a comfortable traveler...adaptable, flexible, curious. 

She said she wished we'd had more chances to live in more faraway places and now here she is some fifteen years later moving to Asia. 

I want to to go back for a minute and reassure my 43-year old self that you are doing the right thing moving your teenagers from suburban Maryland to a small English village. That you shouldn't worry so much about how these daughters of yours will adjust because they will do so much more than adjust. They will bloom and grow and thrive amidst all the new and different. 

They will thank you for upending their lives and for showing them the world is big but people are people. I want to tell the me back then that fifteen year old daughter will one day make a move to South Korea and scarcely bat an eye. That the years we spent in England helped make her ready for the now. 

Not just ready but eager. Excited. Confident that when God opens a door we need to boldly walk on through. 

My son-in-law is a surgeon in the Army so we've known all year a move would occur, we just didn't know where. For the past year I've been praying specifically for their new home, new neighbors, new assignment. It's possible I may have even prayed once or twice for God to bring them East because they've spent the last five years living way out west.  

Y'all sometimes God gives us exactly what we ask for-ha! 

They are moving East. To the land of ancient history and delicious barbecue. Changdeokgung Palace and the DMZ. Twelve Unesco World Heritage Sites and the breakdancing capital of the world. 

And because there's no escaping ordinary life that will happen too. Play dates and laundry and a new baby to love. Groceries bought and meals prepared. Coffee with friends and church on Sundays. That dance of the familiar helps you feel at home when your feet wobble and your heart jiggles and tears threaten. 

Which they probably will, but my now grown up girl knows they won't last. She'll put down roots and settle in. She will call this new place home because that's where her people are. 

And she will find delight in this new place because that's how her mama raised her. 

Thursday, May 23, 2019

Life Lately

It's been a while since last we spoke and I miss writing here.

A lot has been happening in our little corner of the world and I've struggled with the best way to go about getting back on track with my blog. How about we start with three things because three things somehow feels manageable. Three huge ginormous things, but still just three things.

There's no real easy way to write this so I'm going to be blunt. My daughter2 and her fiancee cancelled their wedding a week prior to the event and we're still feeling a little fragile round here. I imagine we will feel that way for quite some time.

It's not a secret but it is private, and yes there is a difference. I'm not going to write about the specifics here, in fact I probably wouldn't write about it at all except people have been emailing asking what's up so it felt like I needed to say something. Daughter2 loves my blog and knows I can't really keep writing here without mentioning the elephant in the room so she's told me to carry on.

This is me carrying on.

Second thing...Daughter1, her husband, son (aka cutest little mancub in all the land), and baby #2 (coming this fall!) are moving to South Korea.

My son-in-law finishes a grueling five year residency program in June, takes his written boards in July, then around the world they go. I will definitely write more about this but let's stick with headlines for now.

Thirdly, their overseas move means this guy is going to live with us for the next two years. Everyone say hi to Hunley-

He's adorable and only slightly naughty and I for sure will have more to say about him as he settles in to his temporary new home on the lake.

He will settle in right?

Of course he will.
We'll settle in too.

And I might have more to say along those lines so don't wander too far.