Monday, March 1, 2010

I'm thinking bicycles

So I thought I’d try something new today and link up with a Not Me Monday post. The idea is to post about something that happened but write as if it didn’t …a little tricky to explain but you’ll understand or not as you read….

While husband and I were busy running errands and preparing for dinner guests on Saturday afternoon daughter1 most certainly did not call to tell us her sister had been in a minor traffic accident. No way! How unbelievable would that be especially since daugther1 had her own fender bender as recently as April, which definitely did not take at least 5 years off of my life.

Daughter2 did not bump fenders with another vehicle as she was exiting a busy parking lot on Saturday after another driver waved her out. All drivers know it is perfectly safe to let another driver tell you the coast is clear. And of course daughter1 was not calling to break the news because daughter 2 was too distraught to speak coherently. In our family we always react calmly to situations such as this. Naturally my heart did not skip ten or seventy beats as I listened to the news because as I said I’m cool as a cucumber when one of my children call from hundreds or thousands of miles away to tell me the car that was purchased three short weeks ago now has a hood that is misaligned.

I certainly did not call my own sister while on the verge of tears and ask if she and my brother in law could get in their own car on a busy Saturday afternoon and drive out to the accident so husband and I could have a first hand report on what constitutes ‘minor damage’. I would never ask my sister to drop whatever she was doing and drive miles out of her way just to reassure my child and also me. I am not at all emotional. In fact…I’m a rock. And my sister and brother in law would not have already been en route to the accident site when I called because they are not super nice like that. We are not at all glad they are only half an hour away from the university and we know they never ever get sick and tired of us calling and asking for favors.

And I for sure did not eat a chocolate truffle that I was wrapping for my dinner guests to take home as soon as I hung up the phone. I don’t head straight for something chocolate when I’m feeling helpless and missing my kids. In fact I don’t miss my children one tiny little bit nor do I wish for one second that I were close enough to give daughter2 a hug along with a whole plate of chocolate truffles. She hates chocolate and wouldn’t like that at all. She is 19 years old and everyone knows that 19 year old daughters never ever need hugs and kisses from mom.

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17 comments:

  1. I am NOT eating chocolate in sympathy with you. Oh no, I'm not.

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  2. So sorry to hear about the accident! Hope everything is going okay. And since chocolate is a great healer, it was not only normal, but wise for you to reach for it after you hung up the phone. : )

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  3. Joyce! Well, I did not like it a bit!
    It really sounds as if you were a super caring, considerate mom, which I know for sure you are not.
    Seriously, I really hope that daughter2 is absolutely FINE and that all was a little bumper to bumper... Let us know the truth...eh?
    Love, Lety xx

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  4. I gotta know: how bad is the car? I'm sure she's okay, but maybe a little shaken up. Good life lesson! :D My oldest son had 2 accidents in a time span of 2 weeks: both by backing into somebody. I feel your pain!

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  5. YOu did great on the not me! post! I still am not sure if I do it right. And look at you. Nailed it.

    Sorry about the accident. :( Hope she feels better. And chocolate is a perfectly acceptable method for comforting yourself.

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  6. Wow - you guys have a great family unit. I am now looking for truffles.

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  7. Ahh, I would have totally been the daughter who couldn't make that call home. I come to tears too easily! Hope everything is okay! And welcoming to Not Me Monday participation. It's fun, isn't?

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  8. I hope everything is okay....pass the chocolates I knew that was the cure all.

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  9. Bless your heart... or not. This is {not} confusing. I see that we truly {don't} share a common love {therapy} for chocolate. ((((hugs))))

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  10. You are good!! That was fun to read, maybe not as fun to write...ha ha. I hope everything that didn't happen turned out ok. Kids can't live with 'um, but do they ever turn out good blog posts. Keep us updated!!

    Amy

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  11. So sorry to hear about the accident. We just went through that a couple weeks ago with our 18 year old. I can't imagine being so far away, at least our daughter's accident was only about 1/2 block from home. Glad to hear she wasn't hurt. Hope the car is ok. And isn't it wonderful to have family close by to check on them.

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  12. I am so sorry. Been there, done that. On Christmas eve afternoon, I hit someone in a parking lot too, so I can't say a thing. My sweet husband didn't even say a word. It was just one of those things. The policeman was so nice and he did not give me a ticket. He said he could see how it happened. He said it would be enough for me to go through the trouble of having the car repaired. Wasn't he nice? I hope you had a nice dinner party on Saturday night. Love & blessings from NC!

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  13. Oh how I know how you felt! I could not get to Son #1's accident fast enough, all the way with my heart in my throat!

    Hope everyone is okay. (and your insurance doesn't go up) :)

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  14. Joyce,

    So glad to hear that the accident was only a minor fender bender and your daughter wasn't hurt. That's what cars are for and chocolate always works to make anyone feel better.

    Love and Hugs ~ Kat

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  15. So sorry about the accident, hope things are not as bad as they can seem at times. Hope your daughter is doing ok. Praying for you guys!

    until next time... nel

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  16. This was a great Not Me post, Joyce! Aren't they so fun and therapeutic- I love doing them!

    So sorry about the accident :(glad all are OK and I'll just go ahead and assume that "minor damage" really, truly did mean just that ;)

    Thanks for swinging by my blog! TJ

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